Lies that are often done by children can worry parents. But before scolding him for the lies made, it is important to find out the reasons behind the lies in order to be able to respond appropriately.
Children begin to recognize lies at an early age, which is around the age of three. At this time he began to realize that we may not be able to guess all the things he thinks. From there he also understood that there were some things he could have done without his parents knowing.
Understanding the reasons children lie
After getting to know lies at the age of three, it increases with age. In children aged 4-6 years, they are more clever in showing facial expressions and tone of voice when he is lying. As the child grows, of course he will be brave enough to lie, including matters relating to school, homework, teachers to friends.
Actually at the age of 5-10 years is an important time to clarify the boundary between lying and honesty. It also depends on how the environment confirms the meaning of honesty. Children over the age of 10 years can already clearly understand the boundary between lying and honesty.
Generally the reason children lie is afraid of being found out when making mistakes and covering up those mistakes. In addition, there are other reasons such as wanting to get attention or trying to get a desire that has not been done. There is also a reason for children to lie so that the story has a more exciting impression or looks better. Some lies are even done just to find out the response of parents.
How to Overcome Lying Children
Knowing the reasons for lying, can help parents take appropriate actions in dealing with children lying.
If children lie about things that are not really experienced, parents can respond respecting their imagination. However, if the child is lying because of covering up mistakes, encourage the child to admit his mistakes. Parents can also start not overreacting when children make mistakes, for example when spilling drinks on the floor.
Then if a child lies because he wants to be considered better, parents can praise the child more and encourage them to do what they like. This can increase children's confidence. Equally important is emphasizing the value of honesty in the family.
It is important for parents to give examples of honest behavior and don't be ashamed to admit mistakes and apologize with clear reasons for making mistakes. Parents can also provide rules and limits regarding what behavior is accepted and what is not. When the child lies, explain what the consequences are, so that the child does not repeat it.
Equally important is emphasizing the value of honesty in the family. It is important for parents to give examples of honest behavior and don't be ashamed to admit mistakes and apologize with clear reasons for making mistakes. Parents can also provide rules and limits regarding what behavior is accepted and what is not. When the child lies, explain what the consequences are, so that the child does not repeat it. But avoid physical punishment!
In addition, avoid labeling liars on children. This will only make him lie more. Then give praise or sweet words for him when the child says something honest. This pleasure can motivate him to repeat honest behavior.
If various methods have been done by parents, but children are still lying to make parents overwhelmed, you should also involve a child counselor or psychologist. This can be done to help find out why children lie and resolve the problem.
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